Finding a Therapist
I have as yet to do any therapist trainings in my approach outside of the San Francisco Bay Area, so I can not make any recommendations for therapists outside this area. However, because my approach is compatible to that of John Bradshaw's, I like to refer people to a website that lists therapists around the U.S and the World who claim to embrace his approach and who have asked the people at the Creative Growth Center in Albany, CA to list them. The link to this is
www.creativegrowth.com/referral.htm. I and the CGC are however unable to personally endorse them as we are not personally familiar with their work. Nonetheless, I think this is a good place to start, and I would read on about my recommendations for interviewing a therapists to begin the process of ascertaining whether your potential therapist is able and willing to work at the levels I describe in my articles.
I recommend interviewing and having a trial first appointment with at least three therapists if possible with the intention of trying to discover if their approach is compatible with the one I describe in my article: "Relational Healing in Complex PTSD." A suitable therapist will be happy to answer your question about their approach and generally talk with you on the phone for at least five minutes before scheduling a meeting. Should the therapist respond to you in an aloof, critical or shaming way, I would immediately cross them off your list and keep looking.
Finally there are unfortunately many untherapized therapists in the community. I believe it's appropriate to ask a prospective therapist if they have done their own therapy, and to at least get a response from them that indicates that they have and have found it helpful.
Good luck in your search. If you live in a reasonable sized city and persevere, I think your chances of finding a "good enough" therapist are good. If however you are unsuccessful, (and even if you are), there are many types of twelve step groups that are free and can be very helpful, as long as the particular meeting you attend embraces the principles of trust-building I describe in the article above. www.coda.org is the URL for Codependents Anonymous, one of my favorites, which can be especially helpful for anyone who is a Fawn type or subtype (see my article: "Codependency, Trauma & the Fawn Response").
Further guidance on this question can be found at www.alice-miller.com. Click on "articles" at the top, and then on the next page, in the left column click on "FAQ. How to find the right therapist." (This is a great website - the website of "THE" Alice Miller, who wrote the great book: The Drama of The Gifted Child.)
(See also my article on "Co-Counseling")